In Response to “My Ex-Gay Friend” (NY Times, Sunday, June 19, 2011)

I can identify with Michael. All my life I have only been attracted to and loved women. I knew I was a lesbian, though sometimes my sexual behavior was of a bisexual woman, thinking that would enable me to find attraction to a man. But I never did find men attractive. I didn’t think I ever would until over six months ago when I was finally sexually attracted to a man and fell in love with him immediately.

Don’t tell me my feelings for women weren’t real or that my feelings for this man aren’t real. Why, when someone lives a “heterosexual” life and then comes out as homosexual it is okay, but if it’s the other away around, people question and doubt?

I know from experience that sexuality is fluid. Those who insist otherwise are fooling themselves. Why do so many “straight” women talk of attraction to other women?

“Homosexual” is not a label that should be applied so rigidly. Don’t blame those who have found that the label no longer applies, for whatever reason.

Link to original article:  http://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/19/magazine/my-ex-gay-friend.html?nl=todaysheadlines&emc=tha210

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